Teen Sexual Health

Teen Workshop Modules

Overview | Understanding The Risks Of Sex | Exploring The Idea Of Sexual Limits | Developing A Decision-Making Framework | Using Values To Guide Your Decisions

Values & Decision Making II: Exploring The Idea Of Sexual Limits

Estimated Time: 5 Minutes

Procedure:

1. Write "Sexual Limits" on the board or on a sheet of flipchart paper. Ask the participants what phrase means to them. Write these ideas on the board or flipchart paper.

Sexual Limits are sexual behaviours that are acceptable or unacceptable to a person. Sexual limits are influenced by values. Just as everyone has their own unique set of values, each person's sexual limits are also unique.

2. Ask:

• How do sexual limits relate to personal values?
• Why is it important for people to understand their own sexual limits?
• How do sexual limits affect our "readiness" for sex?
• How can knowing your sexual limits help you make healthy choices in your intimate relationships?
• What happens if the people in a relationship have different sexual limits? For example, if one is ready to have intercourse and the other is only ready to kiss.
• What could happen if people don't communicate their sexual limits and accept those of their partner?
• What are healthy ways to deal with people having different limits in a relationship? (Emphasize consent-voluntary agreement to participate in an activity-and sexual assault. Healthy sexual decisions are based on one's own boundaries. These aren't the kind of decisions that are up for compromise.)
• What are some ways of talking to your partner about your limits?

3. Write "Jon's Values" on the board along with the three values listed below. Go through these values one by one and ask the group how each value may express itself in Jon's sexual limits.

Example
Jon's values: Long-term commitment Traditional religious values Monogamy	Jon's sexual limits: Sex belongs only in a committed relationship Wait until married No cheating

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